Learning how to rebuild financial security after divorce starts with knowing not just what steps to take, but remembering how supported you are in the Universe as a Spiritual Being.
Divorce changes everything, not just your relationship status.
It can shake the foundation of who you are, how safe you feel in the world, and what you believe is possible for your future.
For many women, it’s not just the emotional pain that hurts, it’s the financial upheaval, the loss of the life you are accustomed to, and the overwhelming question, “How do I start over?”
I felt utterly lost when my marriage ended. As a stay-at-home mom, I began to panic because I didn’t know how I was going to manage a full-time job and raise my daughter on my own.
Here’s the truth: once I was able to get past the fear and panic, I began listening to my intuition to lead the way. The job fell into my lap and I was able to work when my daughter was in school allowing me to be there for her.
You may feel like you don’t have that kind of support or that you are starting over with nothing, but you have all that you need within to create exactly what you want in your life.
When you listen to and trust your intuition, you will be inspired to take the action steps you need to take and rebuild financial security, emotional strength, and a life you actually love living.
Here are four ways to begin moving in the direction to creating a life you love.
Rebuild Financial Security After Divorce
One of the biggest stressors after divorce is money. Whether you relied on your partner financially or simply had a shared household income, the shift can feel overwhelming.
These steps can help you get clear on your new financial reality. Some of these points are the physical and tangible actions and some are tools to help you tap into your intuition.
Step 1: Get Clear on Your New Financial Reality
- If you have a job already, write down your monthly income, expenses, and debts.
- If you need to find a job, update your resume and ask those around you to let you know of any opportunities. Create a LinkedIn account and search for jobs or look on Indeed.com.
- Review your divorce settlement so you know exactly what assets, liabilities, or support you have.
- Use budget tools or even a simple spreadsheet to track every dollar.
Step 2: Build (or Rebuild) Your Credit
- Your credit score affects everything from renting an apartment to getting a loan so the first step is to check your number.
- Pay all your bills on time, reduce credit card balances, and if you want to start fresh, consider getting a new card.
Step 3: Plan for the Future
- Even if it’s $25 a month, start an emergency fund.
- Begin contributing to a retirement account. If your job doesn’t offer one, check out Fidelity.com and open your own Roth IRA.
- Explore new income streams. Consider freelance writing, part-time work, or a passion fueled side hustle to make extra money.
Step 4: Learn How to Manifest Abundance Into Your Life
- Learn tools to manifest the money you need to help you rebuild financial security.
- Practice trusting your intuition by asking yourself powerful questions such as “is this decision I’m about to make for my highest and greatest good?” If it doesn’t feel right, the answer is no.
- Use your subconscious to attract what you want in your life. Before going to sleep, choose thoughts and positive affirmations as you drift off to sleep such as “I am a magnet for all good things” or “I am wealthy.” These will work on your subconscious mind while you sleep.
Rebuild Your Self-Worth Which Will Help You Rebuild Financial Security
Divorce can make you question everything in your life. You may find yourself questioning your beauty, your worth, your lovability, or even your ability to trust your own decisions. There is a direct correlation to how you feel about yourself and how much joy, abundance, and good you will allow into your life. This is why it’s essential to not only learn how to rebuild financial security, but also to heal the self-worth wounds that influence it.
Your net worth is tied to how you feel about yourself.
Step 1: Understand the Emotional Fallout
- It’s normal to feel grief, anger, confusion, or even relief after your divorce. Whatever you are feeling is your right to feel. However, it’s important to process these emotions and not deny they are there.
- These emotions are trying to get your attention to look at the parts of your self and life that need some TLC. What can you do today to begin to change an area of your life that you’ve been so unhappy with. One small step in the direction of your desired goal will help you shift some of the heaviness of these emotions.
Step 2: Reconnect with Who You Are
- Write in a journal and ask yourself questions such as, “What do I want now?” Or “What do I value most?”
- Try something new each week that scares you to push you slowly out of your comfort zone.
- Reconnect to Spirit through prayer and meditation.
Building a Support System That Lifts You Up
You can’t heal in isolation. Surround yourself with people who see your true self, your potential, and who support you unconditionally.
Step 1: Choose Your Circle Wisely
- Spend time with people who encourage you and believe in your future.
- Join a support group or a church community that feels right to you.
Step 2: Consider Professional Support
- A coach or therapist can provide tools to help you navigate this time in your life.
- Group programs provide connection and structure. Find a group in your area. Check out Heartbreak to Joy.
Step 3: Protect Your Energy
- Set boundaries with those who gossip about you or your ex, judge your choices, or keep you stuck in old wounds.
- Choose things that make you feel good each day. You are in charge of what you allow or won’t allow in your life.
- Understand that complaining about your life brings your energy down and does not help you gain traction to create the future you desire.
Creating a Life You Love
You get to decide who you want to be now-without compromise, without approval, and without waiting. Once you release the heavy emotions and truly heal, you have a clean slate to become who you’ve always wanted to be and to create the life you’ve always wanted.
Step 1: Design Your New Vision
- Ask yourself: If I could wake up tomorrow in my ideal life, what would that look like?
- Break that vision into small, doable steps.
- Write down the steps you need to take each week into an organizational planner. Seeing it on paper in ink is a powerful reminder that you deserve to have all that you desire.
Step 2: Take Aligned Action
- Focus on 1-2 priorities each week. Overwhelm can take over if you scatter your attention.
- Track your progress so you can celebrate even small wins.
Step 3: Stay Open to Joy
- Healing isn’t about waiting until your life is “perfect” or you’ve realized your dream to be happy again. You can find joy in the little things each day on your journey.
- Allow joy in now. Savor the coffee you love, read a good book, laugh with your kids, friends, and families, and enjoy quiet moments of peace.
The answers you are looking for are in this roadmap to rebuild financial security and self-worth. You are not starting over, you are uncovering who you really are. A woman filled with wisdom, resilience, and self-awareness.
The healing journey toward creating the best version of yourself is profoundly fulfilling.
One day you’ll look back and realize how far you’ve come and it will all be worth it.
Ready to take the first step?
I invite you to book a FREE 30-minute Heartbreak to Joy breakthrough session. In this session you will:
- Discover what’s keeping you from fully choosing yourself
- Begin releasing the emotions that are keeping you stuck
- Create a personalized roadmap to step into a life you truly love
You’ll leave this session feeling renewed, reenergized, and inspired to move forward on your healing path toward the life you dream about.
Wishing you so much love and peace,
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