After a divorce, it can feel as if you lost yourself and your entire life. You not only lose the relationship with your ex, but friendships may end as well. You may lose money in the process, your family home, your faith in your ability to move on.
I know when my marriage ended, the loss was so heavy on my heart, I couldn’t breathe at times.
Parts of myself felt lost and gone forever and it felt as if my whole life vanished.
How was I going to move forward while laden down with all my grief?
The questions kept piling up inside of me.
“What just happened?”
“What did I do wrong?”
“Who am I?”
“How do I pick up the pieces and move on?”
When the dust finally settled and you realized you didn’t lose yourself
When the dust truly settled, my divorce was final, and I moved out of our family home, the cloud of despair started to dissipate. I could begin to see more clearly what this was all for.
And what I learned was that the false sense of self I had, of who I was, was an illusion.
I was NOT a wife, mother, writer, coach.
I was NOT my possessions or my thoughts or beliefs.
I was NOT the person holding onto it all in my desperate attempt to appear to the world that my life was under control.
That all was GONE.
And I’m so thankful!
Because I didn’t LOSE myself, I BECAME myself.
I finally grasped that I am a divine being who came from the formless energy that is all around and inside of us. And you are too.
You DIDN’T lose yourself!
Underneath all the outside loss you may feel, is the deepest truth of who you are. And it’s from this place, this place of formless energy, that you rebuild and recreate a life that is yours. This is the place from which all possibilities exist. This is where things and people who you desire to be a part of your human experience come from.
The first step in allowing this truth to sink in is to surrender to all that you believe you lost. Allow yourself to sink into the “reality” of what is right now. Breathe through it and imagine letting pieces of it drift off into the Universe to be transformed into your deeper truths.
Each time, focus on letting go of a little more until you ultimately surrender to where you are right now in your life. It’s your ticket to the life you desire. Your new life begins at the point of ultimate surrender. You can then implant any image of how you want your life to be onto the empty slate of formless energy in order to manifest it into your physical reality.
If all of this sounds like a pipe dream, take a moment to drop down into your heart and ask yourself, “what is possible for me?” Listen to the answers that make you feel light and hopeful again. Let go of the heavy, dark energy of fear.
Because the answer that makes you feel GOOD is the TRUTH.
The excitement you may begin to feel after surrendering and letting go of all the illusions of your life, is the energy needed to recreate something new; something your heart is yearning for.
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If you can remember right now that you didn’t “LOSE” anything and that all that you ever desired for your life is underneath the illusion of who you think you are, you will move forward with ease and excitement for your future.
And your future is NOW.
You can quickly change the trajectory of your life by making this shift into focusing your attention on the formless energy that exists all around you. By imagining all that you desire for your life, you can direct this energy to bring it to you.
Here is how to begin to focus your attention on the formless energy in and around you.
One of the best times to focus your attention on what you want to create for your life is when you are in bed falling asleep. Focus on what you desire and how you would feel as if it’s already a part of your physical life. Imagine showing up healed and living a life you love with all that you desire in it.
This is the gift that comes from hitting rock bottom and experiencing such intense despair and grief. From the bottom, you CAN create a life that is better than you could have ever imagined for yourself.
All the friendships, money, material things you feel you “lost,” are in your past for a reason. They have served a purpose to get you where you are right now. Instead of continuing in a state of despair because of all you “lost,” celebrate YOU. Show up in your life as YOU.
The friendships, the money, the material things are all still there in the formless energy waiting for you to decide what’s next. Just like the butterfly that transforms and emerges out of unseen energy, you too, can transform your outer life into something more beautiful.
This is what you can have when you transform from within.
You get to choose friendships that are more genuine and loving, more money than you ever had and new, beautiful material things that bring you joy.
You get to choose a more loving relationship with yourself.
You get to call in a beautiful partnership that is better than any relationship you’ve ever had.
You get to choose.
So you never lost your ability to make choices that are for your highest good.
You never lost who YOU really are.
You never lost your inner power to rebuild and recreate a live you adore.
Wishing you so much love,
Lisa
Positive Quote of the Day: “Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” -J.K. Rowling
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